No, it’s the “do you babysit?” question for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love kids, but why do you feel like you have to give them to me all the time 😂 go get one of your friends to have a playdate or something please
Also very thoughtful, thank you! Although I did really cherish relationships with the little ones I was blessed to babysit during my years of singleness!
And now, being married, I can wholeheartedly say,” Yes, marriage can be hard. But it’s a beautiful, blessed hard when both spouses are working to become more like Jesus. And it’s a very different hard to the challenges of doing life alone in a long season of singleness.”
“And I truly don’t have less time than when I was single — I just have different time. And I’m thankful that the God of all time, in our single time/s and/or married time/s is with us all the time. And he is good.”
Thanks for your thoughts! I also had little ones who I was blessed to babysit during that time — they (and their parents) were like an adopted family to me.
But I also had a very close relationship with their mother BEFORE she started asking me to watch her kids, which is what made the difference. I think what bothered me was when I felt like people saw me as a potential babysitter before they saw me as a person they wanted to have a relationship with.
And yes, ditto to everything else you said! It’s a different kind of hard and a different kind of time, but all of it is good and from our very good God. 🤍
I’m really glad you wrote this post—initially, I considered its merits in relation to women experiencing primary singleness (especially those who experience it for longer than their peers), but I think it’s also important to reflect on how these questions apply to those who, having been married, find themselves again single due to spousal separation/divorce or bereavement. Thanks so much for starting this valuable conversation!
That’s a super important point about needing to include women whose singleness is a result of different circumstances but no less difficult than primary singleness! Thanks for sharing :)
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No, it’s the “do you babysit?” question for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love kids, but why do you feel like you have to give them to me all the time 😂 go get one of your friends to have a playdate or something please
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I have this nephewcousinbrotherfamilyfrienddistantrelative” this was so hilarious 😆
Also very thoughtful, thank you! Although I did really cherish relationships with the little ones I was blessed to babysit during my years of singleness!
And now, being married, I can wholeheartedly say,” Yes, marriage can be hard. But it’s a beautiful, blessed hard when both spouses are working to become more like Jesus. And it’s a very different hard to the challenges of doing life alone in a long season of singleness.”
“And I truly don’t have less time than when I was single — I just have different time. And I’m thankful that the God of all time, in our single time/s and/or married time/s is with us all the time. And he is good.”
Thanks for your thoughts! I also had little ones who I was blessed to babysit during that time — they (and their parents) were like an adopted family to me.
But I also had a very close relationship with their mother BEFORE she started asking me to watch her kids, which is what made the difference. I think what bothered me was when I felt like people saw me as a potential babysitter before they saw me as a person they wanted to have a relationship with.
And yes, ditto to everything else you said! It’s a different kind of hard and a different kind of time, but all of it is good and from our very good God. 🤍
That’s a really helpful distinction!
I’m really glad you wrote this post—initially, I considered its merits in relation to women experiencing primary singleness (especially those who experience it for longer than their peers), but I think it’s also important to reflect on how these questions apply to those who, having been married, find themselves again single due to spousal separation/divorce or bereavement. Thanks so much for starting this valuable conversation!
That’s a super important point about needing to include women whose singleness is a result of different circumstances but no less difficult than primary singleness! Thanks for sharing :)